Infertility is a painful issue to address. It is natural to blame yourself or your partner for failing to conceive naturally, but this isn't healthy. If you've chosen to start in-vitro fertilization (IVF) treatment, you will deal with all kinds of emotions, ranging from excitement and hope to anxiety and depression.
Well-meaning people will tell you to stay positive, but as anyone going through IVF can attest to, this is easier said than done. The process can be long and difficult, from the time you make the decision to undergo IVF to the anxious wait for the pregnancy test results.
Everyone has their own way of dealing with stress and anxiety, but for some it is easier than others. Strategies that can help you include communication and research, support, relaxation and distraction.
Communication and research during IVF
There are times during the process when you may be confused or uncertain. What does it mean if you have abdominal pains after the embryo transfer? Does light bleeding mean the process has failed? You'll have many questions, and the less information you have, the more anxious you'll feel. It's important that you communicate with your IVF doctor or nurse about any doubts or concerns you have. You can also do your own research through the Internet – there are many online forums you can join for information and support during your IVF.
Support during the IVF process
It is understandable if you and your partner do not want to tell anyone that you are going through IVF. However, social support can help you get through the process. Being able to talk to your family or trusted friends about what you're going through can reduce anxiety. If you really do not want to tell anyone, there are online support groups where you can share your experience (even anonymously).
Relaxation during IVF
During IVF, you need to be as relaxed as possible. Being calm and confident can soothe your nerves and banish anxiety, Some research suggests that IVF success rates can be improved by lowering stress levels.Try deep breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga postures that improve fertility. Acupuncture may also help.
Distraction may help a woman through IVF
During the IVF process, you may experience intense feelings of fear, anger or sadness. While you need to address the issues causing these feelings, you also should not let them dominate your mind during your treatment. One of the hardest parts of IVF is playing the waiting game, especially after your embryo transfer. Distractions can help reduce anxiety and will make time pass more quickly. Keep yourself occupied with work, hobbies, TV – anything that will keep your mind off the impending results.
It is natural to feel anxious during IVF
It is important that you do not feel as though it is wrong to feel anxious or depressed during IVF. These feelings are very common and a natural part of the process. Do not internalise your feelings – share them with your partner or doctor.
It is also important that you do not change your lifestyle completely. IVF should not be the sole focus of your life. This will lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety.
Try the strategies above to cope. If you feel you need professional assistance, do not be embarrassed or afraid to call your doctor or see a counsellor. They are there to help.
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